The querent had had an argument with her husband three days earlier, and he left home. He wasn’t answering his phone, and she was very worried about him.

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The querent is signified by Jupiter at 14° Cancer, the Moon at 23° Cancer, and Venus at 18° Libra.

Her husband is signified by Mercury at 16° Virgo and the Sun at 9° Virgo.

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Mercury, strong in its own sign, shows that he is self‑contained, self‑focused, and guided more by his own thoughts than by any emotional or relational need. His pride is the reason he isn’t calling. He left home on his own terms, and he will return only when he decides the moment is right. The distance of Mercury from the Sun makes him “invisible,” symbolically hidden from view - unreachable and unresponsive. But the chart also shows that once Mercury moves about three more degrees, it will emerge from this invisibility. That shift suggests some kind of contact. Given Mercury’s placement by sign and house, the timing points to roughly three hours.

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​We now know what the husband thinks. But what about the querent? The querent’s own significators tell a parallel story. Jupiter, the Moon, and Venus show a woman who also holds herself in high regard, fully aware of her beauty and expecting to be treated in the best way. She is not passive or wounded; she is proud, confident, and just as self‑focused as he is. 

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Because this is a relationship question, it is important to understand what the other significators of both partners are doing. 

The placement of Venus and the Sun, that signify her as a woman and him as man, show that they are disappointed with each other - not just romantically or sexually, but in the broader sense of what they believe a partnership should be. And because each holds themselves in such high regard, each blames the other.

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The chart’s message is simple: they both have to put their pride away, become more interested in each other, and stop thinking and acting as if they are the most wonderful thing. She should expect to have some kind of contact with her husband in about 3 hours.

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And so it proved: as advised, her husband came home about three hours later. They had a long talk, which led to another argument and to her asking him to leave again. During the following weeks and months, they were not able to change their old behavior: he came back and left a few more times until they eventually decided to lead separate lives.

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